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This blog post is a special dedication to my partner in crime and my best friend Andrew Matos.
Lets face it, relationships are hard work! They require lots of attention, sacrifice, love, support, communication and commitment.
I met Andrew when I was 17 years old, fresh out of High-school and ready to take on the world! He was pretty much my first serious relationship ( holding hands and spin the bottle obvs didn't count as past relationships). I knew from the moment I met him that I would marry him.
Having known someone for over 10 years really puts life in to perspective. We have laughed together, cried together and pushed through some really tough times. The one thing I know for certain, he always has my back and I have his.
It wasn't always rainbows and butterflies. I used to be a really defensive and angry person. I was really bad at communicating my feelings and I didn't take anything seriously. I was young and dumb and really narsasitic .
It was only a few years ago that right before I graduated University, I learned about NVC ( Non Violent Communication)
Through NVC I learned how to listen to Andrew and his needs. I no longer became defensive but instead learned to hear what Andrew needed from me.
I also learned how to relax and understand that he loved me so much, therefore the end result always would be in resolving the situation.
When you have been with someone for that long and for such drastic changes in life, you can tend to start drifting from one another, The Key is to not lose yourself in the other person or your marriage. Always know who you are and where you belong in your marriage.
Andrew and I have learnt over the years that we will always have our own individuality and that being married doesn't hold us back from our wants, needs and desires. We respect each other, we are honest with each other and we are committed to building a solid foundation to build our life together.
We have also learned that we cannot change each other. Most failed marriages are due to the partner wanting to change the other person to their liking.
We accept each other for who we are, we support each other and we push each other to be our best selves. That is when you know your relationship is #onpoint.
Communication is the number one Key to a healthy marriage. It is a part of our human connection.
I am so thankful for my buddy in life. The one who brings out my best self. The one who accepts me for who I am ( crazy and all)